How to stop being complacent

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I wanna get married one day.

But I’m content. However, in the middle of the waiting and preparing my heart, I sometimes fuss at God or the process. Yet, at my core I know He is enough. He is and will always be my everything because he made my heart to fulfill it in only ways He can. But you know what..knowing He is enough sometimes makes me complacent. Because I am content, I become complacent and I don’t ask Him for His desires for me. There were times, I stopped praying and just didn’t know what to believe because the journey has not been the easiest.

But, He’s a good Dad. He has promises for me and He wants me to ask Him. The problem was,  I was tired of asking. I became passive. Kinda nonchalant, like “Yea that’s cool God, but i’m a bit over asking.”

If you’ve read anything I’ve written in the past, you know i’m not the girl that gives up. I’m not the girl that passively accepts defeat. Never been her and I don’t plan to become her.

So today, I want to fight with you in the places you may have become complacent in too. To the places your dreams are hiding because they’ve been knocked down and so covered in dust, it feels impossible to become clean again.

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How to stop being complacent

Ask Him

“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” Matthew 7:7

If He is telling you to ask, He’s ready to respond. But it’s only a matter of His perfect time that He will respond. His responses can be layers to the full picture but we have to be patient and trusting until He reveals it. Sometimes, our asking isn’t to receive His promise all at once but rather, receiving what we can handle to prepare us.

This for me has been the toughest because I continually try to reason and put the pieces together for my story. We can’t understand God but we can find Him when we look for Him. And it’s in those places of seeking and finding that we get propelled into another day of belief and waiting, firmly.

Find Him

“When you seek me in prayer and worship, you will find me available to you. If you seek me with all your heart and soul,” Jeremiah 29:13

The beauty of a relationship with God is that He longs for us to trust His heart. However, in order to trust His heart, we must know His heart. And to know God is to look for Him. It’s to remember who He is when He repeatedly showed His love & His hand.

It has never failed, that when I look for Him, I also find the answers I need for that moment in time and it gives me the courage to keep going.

His ways are higher and holy

God’s ways are infinitely beyond our own. I often remind myself that if He is holy, His ways are holy. And to be holy means to be perfect. Accepting his higher, perfect ways when what we experience doesn’t feel higher and holy takes us choosing to accept His plan, instead of our own. It comes back to trusting His heart beyond what we see and examining where we can learn and grow.

He’s preparing you for His promise to you

What if He gave you what He promised you but you weren’t fully equipped to handle it? He knows the weight that you can lift. He knows what your heart, experience and mind are actually prepared for. But, because He is a good Father, a wise, All-knowing One, it would be unjust to give you what He wants for if you can’t steward it well. It’s in those time that we have to let go of the frustration of the wait and the process and embrace the strategy of becoming.

If He said it, He will do it

If He said it, He will do it. It’s just that simple. God doesn’t lie, He doesn’t taunt us or manipulate us. But, Life circumstances and our own human thinking gets in the way.  There’s a beauty in Him showing up in the suddenly, somehow some way to show how trustworthy He is. Because it’ll be right at the time you least expect it, or right at the time you want to give up or perhaps it’ll be in the middle of you being faithful and diligent that He will show up and do what HE said He will. I love this verse because it is clear, He who promised is faithful.

“Let us seize and hold tightly the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is reliable and trustworthy and faithful [to His word]” Hebrews 10:23 AMP

Don’t hold tightly to what you think it will be

This is a hard one because though we know we can’t fully understand, we try to. We’re imaginative of the outcomes but “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him.” 1 Cor 2:9. That’s the beauty and perhaps difficulty of not knowing but this is why we serve God, because HE is God. If He were to tell us His plan, way and path to His promise-we’ll likely do something in our limited thinking that’s not good for us. We may even run from the process because honey….the process is real but, so is He. Let’s not hold tightly to what we think it will be. What He’s has for you is perfect for you in His time & way.

So as we now actively wait on our promises from God, we can turn our gaze toward Him with these things in mind. Will we have days where it is harder? Sure. But will we have days when we are consistent in belief and action? I believe we will be. Dear friend, I want His promises for you so I shared my process. I want you to live the life HE declares over you. But promise me something, when you’re on the other side of this victory, tell your story so that we can all overcome.

Before you go here’s a quick summary of things to consider on your journey from complacency:

  • If He is telling you to ask, He wants you to ask.
  • Understand that His timing is perfect.
  • Believe His promise even if you don’t understand it or know how you’ll get there.
  • His ways are higher and holy.
  • He’s preparing you for His promise to you.
  • If He said it, He will do it.
  • Don’t hold tightly to what you think it will be

 In it with you, 

Renee Jael


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